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I always ask my clients “What’s your partner’s most valuable asset – other than her portfolio?
” The correct answer is “consistency” – and consistent is what people with a history of BPD are not.
The individual with BPD does not have an inner center; she does not know who she is.
It’s a combination of Eastern Mindfulness Training and Western Cognitive Behavior Therapy.
As Marsha Linehan (1993), one of the foremost researchers in the treatment of BPD proclaims in her book Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder over 70% of patients with BPD present with histories of childhood sexual abuse.
Even when this is not the case, the pairing of a child with a difficult temperament (a child that is fussy and easily excitable by nature and difficult to soothe) paired with unreceptive, stressed out, or normative parents contributes towards the maintenance and further development of a difficult personality; lashing out, suicidal gestures, and self-depreciation become the hallmark of the individual with BPD.
Constant feelings of emptiness prompt her to seek stimulation from the outside.
The partner becomes the main outlet for her entertainment, self-respect, or self-loathing – an overwhelming job to handle!