Bible study guide for dating couples
Not necessarily, but it is wise for him to think through his financial status. But there are certain things that may be tempting for some people and not others, like holding hands.
This is why we need to be careful about laying strict, absolute practices.
One of the prime sources of drama is when you have students dating each other within the ministry. I met my wife in the student ministry and there are numerous others who share that same story.
After all, there are worse places that people could meet each other to begin a relationship.
Is it sinful for a couple to drive to a deserted area at night just to “hang out”? Is it wise for a young man to talk to a young woman’s parents about dating/courting their daughter? It depends on whether the parents are Christians, how old the woman is, and a host of other conditions.
Does a young man need to have financial stability before he can get married? Here’s why: part of this is principle and part of this is practice. The practices, however, may differ from relationship to relationship. Making out in the bedroom is off limits, as is all sexual activity.
Obedience to Jesus is the filter through which every action must pass. Christians Pursue God’s Wisdom When it comes to dating, God’s wisdom is desperately needed.
If we are committed to obeying Jesus, than that necessarily rules out dating unbelievers. There are so many issues which aren’t explicitly addressed by Scripture, and therefore require wisdom.
Instead, being part of your student ministry, being connected to a small group, and their parents discipling them are things that should be happening in concert with students who are dating in your ministry.
He was reacting against the casual, recreational, aimless dating that had come to dominate the American landscape. But, as we are so prone to do, we took good principles and distorted them and distilled them into a series of unhelpful/legalistic practices.
He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Dating/courting has turned into an elaborate set of unwritten rules which must be followed to the letter, no matter what the circumstances. But the reality is, you can’t slap these practices on top of every relationship and expect the relationship to go well.
The focus here should be individual discipleship outside of their relationship instead of them discipling each other.
Take the extra step to reach out to these students and their parents to help them date in a healthy way, or even discover that it’s something they aren’t ready for just yet.